I have admittedly been a person who is very hard on myself; somewhat of a perfectionist. I’ve also been my own worst critic when it comes to myself. I even used to be a card carrying member of the overthinker’s club (now I just visit every now and then before I catch myself :). One thing that I was taunted with for years was allowing others views of me to cause me to doubt myself.
Why am I sharing all of this? Well, first of all, I know myself, and as the saying goes, “To thine own self be true”; and there’s nothing anybody can say about me to shake me any more (that last word is key), so who cares what they think. I am enough! I just wholeheartedly feel it’s so important for me put things out that I know others can relate to. We all have issues, but I’m here to tell you that how you feel about you is so very important. It controls what you tell yourself about yourself; how you perceive yourself; and how you allow your own assumption of how others perceive you to consume your thoughts. You have to believe that you are enough. I am proud to say that I’ve laid those burdens I mentioned in the beginning down. Yes I call them burdens, because anything that doesn’t allow me to continue to better myself, is in my way and I need to let it go. Anything that attempts to creep back in, is met with strong opposition, and the will to keep improving.
So how do you recognize when something truly needs to be let go of? Does it make you doubtful of yourself? Does it stop you from working to reach your dreams/goals? Are you concerned about how and what people think about the decisions you make/made? Does it take you away from what you know God has called you to do? If any answers to those questions or any other question like that is yes, then it’s time to let it go. Give it up and turn it a loose. Lay it on the alter. Write it down on a piece of paper and then tear it up. Go seek counseling. Pray. Whatever it is you need to do to get back on track, do it now. You are enough!
Those negative thoughts and feelings are there to distract you, test you, shake you and break you. Yet, once you realize that you are equipped with the strength to endure and the power to overcome; you can then reach the final level and receive, ‘The Glow.’ Just seeing if y’all were still paying attention Lol. Seriously though, it’s time for you to accept that You are enough! All of your flaws, mistakes, fears, hurts, and doubts have already happened. Let it go. It will also happen again (hopefully not the same ones), and that’s due to our own imperfection. So, accept you aren’t perfect, will never be, and just keep working on you. My grandma used to say, “If you are Blessed to live long enough, you’ll know that there will be more falls, but the rise is where the lesson and the Blessing begins.” She also said a hard head leads to a soft butt, but that’s another story altogether.
No matter the circumstance, you must remain positive, yet if you find yourself in a negative head space; slap yourself in the face and say get it together. Again just making sure you’re paying attention Lol. There are three things that I’ve been consistent with doing every day and it has made a true difference in my life. They are to: feed yourself words of encouragement; say affirmations of love dedicated to you; lastly, don’t be afraid to call yourself out for your wrong and at that moment you ask God for forgiveness, forgive yourself. Continue to trust that God made you in His likeness, for You are enough! Yes, I’ve said that several times in this post, so hopefully now you actually will start to believe it, live it, and keep pushing to fulfill that dream, that goal, and your Purpose…don’t ever give up!