What you give may not be what you receive, but does that stop you from giving? Why do we let our own expectations supersede the reality that no one is perfect? Why do we expect people to be exactly like us? If God felt that way, do you think he would’ve sent his son, Jesus, to die for our sins? We expect so much from our job, this life, people we let into our life, relationships, children, and when these people don’t live up to that, we begin to question their place in our lives. But what we need to do is some self-reflection on why we thought that these people would never do any wrong, and how can we hold someone to a standard that we can’t even hold ourselves to. It took me a while to get to this point, and I’m still growing and learning. My hope is that this post helps somebody like it helped me.
I’ve been let down, betrayed, lied to, cheated on, backstabbed and deceived. Thank goodness not all by the same person. But seriously, I may have endured a lot, but I’m still standing, and I forgive everyone that’s ever done anything to hurt me. The realness is that I’ve also been the one to let down, lie to, betray, cheat, backstab and deceive. I know it’s hard to believe that about sweet, innocent looking Nicki…jk, we ALL fall short. Thank the Lord that I’ve also been forgiven by those who I have hurt and most importantly I’ve been forgiven by God. In Mark 11:25 it reads, “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you of your sins.”
I’ve gotten into arguments; fall outs and even had a fight (where the bushes really put a whooping on me…inside joke) with people I care so much for. People who know me well know I have a feisty personality, and Lord knows in the past, when that match is lit….DUCK. At those times, emotions get the best of you and at that time, the enemy jumps right on in and allows itself to have a party. That party is to try and destroy everything that you and those people built together. Friendship, family, relationships, etc… None of it is protected from the enemy’s target. Now don’t get me wrong, there are some people that we have to let go of, but before you do that, have you taken the time to forgive? Those people may have just been brought into your life for a season, but it’s also for a reason. That reason is to teach you something about yourself, not them. Did you discover what that was yet? Don’t play the victim, point the finger or act like you didn’t see the signs along the way. Now is the time to figure that lesson out so that you can set yourself free!
Now my expectations have become hopes. I hope and believe for the best. I hope that the people in my life know that I am giving from my heart and my true intentions are never to hurt you (even if I may go in on you..just a little bit :O). I hope that my life will continue to be good, and that I am able to handle whatever comes my way through prayer and faith. I hope that you can accept me for me as I will for you; pray for me (especially the crazy part) as I do for you; allow me to make mistakes and me to be forgiven as I forgive you; and know that I am a God work in progress as are you.
I admit I do have an expectation. That one and only expectation I have is in the one who will never let me down, in the one who makes no mistakes and the one who I keeps on Blessing me with the strength to share my journey with all you read it. In Psalms 62:5, it states, “My soul, wait thou only upon God, for my expectation is (from) him.”